Failure is OKAY. Sometimes you will work extremely hard at/for something and never make it. It’s important to push your boundaries, but also know what keeps you healthy and sane. It’s okay to switch directions if something is really not working. Know that one failure does not make you a failure as a person.
I share this entry because of the amazement I felt having served this particular passenger.
I picked up a gentleman late one fall evening who came out of a care facility. He appeared very tired. I quickly learned that this man had just finished another one of his near daily visits to his wife who had remained in a coma for over 10 years. Many years ago, this man woke up in the middle of the night to discover that his wife lay next to him unconscious. She never regained consciousness.
The stress of this man’s experience had taken its physical toll on him. Despite the stress clearly aging him during this endeavor, he projected happiness and contentment despite enduring what few could possibly imagine. His love for this other human being was simply a different level of intensity and devotion.
The commitment and dedication driven by unremitted love this man displayed moved and inspired me. This man’s dedication could have easily been a Nicholas Sparks novel.
It reminded me that in the darkest of times and places, there is immense love surrounding us, even if we are unaware of it.
Brick by brick, stone by stone, you are the person who builds the person you will be. Look ahead and build with intention. Mistakes can be corrected. Loss enshrined or built over, depending on what you need and who you need to be. Build of yourself a garden, a monolith or a simple shack by the edge of the shore, but do it by choosing.
No one else can be your architect.
No one else can see the shape of you with the clarity you can.